What To Do?
I’m in a relationship with a wonderful woman.
However, right now we are having a bit of a pregnancy scare….she’s a couple days late and she jumped the gun and took a prenancy test tonight. It’s negative…..though I am not sure if it might have been a little to early to tell.
However….there is a problem.
She’s said that if she does end up pregnant, her intention is to have an abortion. I believe in a woman’s right to choose, however…..I can’t help but feel tore up inside over this, and hoping that she isn’t pregnant even more now…because part of me wants to leave her now over this. It’s not that I don’t love her….but it just hurts so much inside, the very thought of a child of mine being aborted. I understand that truthfully, with our finances and my health issues…we aren’t in a place where having a child is feesable for us….but it just hurts so much inside…..
Am I wrong to feel this way? Please, I need some good advice here.
You are truly amazing! No, its not wrong hun. I wish every guy felt that way. You are just a very sensitive guy and shes so lucky to have you. I know if I was your girlfriend and I heard you were torn apart, I would re-think my decision. A relationship between two people should be happy and about doing stuff for that someone special. You are not wrong to feel this way. Here is what I would do: I would go on google or yahoo. Type in abortion and find just pictures of poor innocent souls and show them to her if she is pregnant. Then she can see what its like. Plus Like you said with finances and health wise, its not best but I would keep the “baby” and do your best to talk it into her. Try to comfort her and talk to her. She may be scared about being pregnant. I am scared to even get pregnant and feel the first kick even though we are trying lol. Pregnancy can be pretty scary. But also think this: If she really did love you, why would she want to hurt you by doing this when there is always another option–adoption. Or even letting someone else help take care of the “baby”. If she is pregnant it is your child also and you should have say in it. Write back to me and let me know how you are doing.
Good luck and take care of yourself!
~Remember there are other options. Just be there for her and talk to her. Share your feelings like you did here!
Anna
No your not in the wrong to have the feelings your having, because that is also your child in there, but on the other hand if you know its probably not the best idea to have this child, and she feels the same way, then maybe you guys should explore your other options. If you dont agree with her choice to abort, which is MORE than understandable, maybe you could bring the idea of adoption up to her. Just a thought, and good luck.
Your definately not wrong for feeling the way you do. I wasn’t ready for pregnancy but hey now im so happy and Im 32wks pregnant. If she does turn out to be pregnant, talk too her, tell her how you feel and discuss your options.
wow your one of a kind kinda guy there needs to be more of you around.. its a shame why would she do this ? you need to tell her what you told us good luck wish i was better with advice x
You are amazing. I wish more guys felt this way! Have you really told her how you feel about it? She might just be scared initially of the thought of being pregnant and if you comfort her she may not want to abort it. Good luck!
i think you are right
no you are not in the wrong to feel like this.. i wish every guy felt like you.. hey why don’t you google abortions on the internet and show your woman the videos and pictures of abortions… maybe that would scare her enough not to even think about having one.. good luck to you!! =)