Using Condoms During Marriage…?
When I get married, I don’t want to have to use the chemical birth control methods like the pill, shots, etc. I have read about the side effects of them and the things that it can do to a woman’s body, and I don’t want to put myself at risk for health problems like that. But, I do want to be able to have sex for pleasure and bonding without the risk of getting pregnant when we do not want to have a child at that time.
What is using condoms during marriage like? Does the condom really reduce the pleasure for the man to a great extent? Is there anything else I should know? (By the way, both my boyfriend and I are virgins.)
Thanks!
This is a good question. I’ve thought about the same thing myself when I get married someday. I’ve been on birth control pills two different times now, and I just feel strange on them; I don’t like the idea of my natural chemicals being controlled by artificial hormones (but this is coming from the girl who doesn’t even like to take ibuprofen when she has a killer headache! lol). But at the same time, the pleasure both you and your future husband feel together w/out the barrier of a condom is more than just physical; he gets to truly feel you on the inside, and I hear the deep, soulful, emotional rush he gets from orgasming inside you makes you both feel insanely close to eachother, spiritually even. Once I was on the pill and experienced this with my boyfriend, after we broke up but got back together after a few months, I had gone off the pill, didn’t know if/who he’d been with since me, and the idea of using condoms again made me really sad that I wouldn’t get to experience that closeness we did when he could come inside me. Plus it was a hassle – he was on the small side, and condoms were always slipping off, sometimes deep inside me, ugh. So even if you use condoms, there’s always the chance they’ll slip off and deposit sperm inside you, or break, or you won’t use them right, etc. Birth control is 99.9% effective; it’s really your best bet. I read that it’s actually not THAT bad for you though; what’s bad is if you go on-and-off of it several times in your life, is what puts you at higher risk of stroke, blood clots, and high blood pressure (and never smoke while on the pill!!!).
In any case, of course it’s up to the two of you in the end. What’s lucky is that you are both virgins, so if your first times are both with condoms, you won’t know what you’re missing, so you’ll probably just be so thrilled w/ the fact that you’re having sex with the man/woman you love that there’s no way it could be bad! =) Plus a lot of guys do actually say they don’t notice a decrease/difference in sensation, especially using lubricated condoms. My first time was with a condom, and I had no problem feeling pleasure! It just became more emotional and felt better in the sense that it was more intimate when I was on the pill and we trusted eachother enough for him to finish inside me.
All in all you would probably be just fine using condoms. Save the condom-free sex for when you are ready to have children (if you want them)! That way it’ll feel new and wonderful physically, and deeply intimate emotionally. =)
It definitely reduces pleasure though it still feels good.
It also interupts things. It makes it harder to switch from one activity to another. Err … lets say you wanted to stop having sex and have him give you oral for a bit, his erection would likely drop and its hard to get it back with a condom on.
There are other barrier methods you could consider that you could put in beforehand and are quite effective – diaphragm, sponge, etc. I’d consider using those.
Talk to your doctor about the pill. The reality is that the pill increases the chances of certain types of cancer and decreases the chance of other types. Knowing your family medical history would help consider whether it would be risky or on the verge of being beneficial.
The condom only reduces sensation slightly.
The pleasure is certainly heightened by the knowledge that there is only a tiny chance that she can get pregnant while I’m protected. Worth it.
I’m also a virgin, but from what I’ve read, the condom does reduce pleasure. But there’s nothing wrong with using a condom during marriage. If you don’t your eggo to get prego, that’s perfectly fine. Cuz once that happens, it’s a doodle that can’t be undid, homeskillet. XD
haha, sorry. I really like those lines from ‘Juno.’ XD
If he has a nice size penis it should not bother him. I use Trojan X L’s lubricated and it great for me. I love it when she’s putting them on.
I don’t know why some guys are so hung up about “it reduces pleasure” Um, no it doesn’t. It might delay ejaculation, but there’s still plenty of pleasure!!!
diffrent condoms do diffrent ****, its always prefrence. but by the time ur married u dont need condoms as much becuase ur older and kno when ur period will come so u kno when not to have sex. or blowjobs always work
Well using condoms is not only for boyfriend/girlfriends. there are many married people who use condoms and will contuine to use them till they are ready to have a baby.
i think that alot of people still use sex in marriage and if thats what you want then you can but yeh i think condoms reduce sensation for both men and women but otherwise there is a risk of pregnancy and if your determined not to go on a ny oter contraceptive then there is no other alternative
Have you researched the implant (birth control for 5 years)
Mirena is a tiny T-shaped piece of plastic that is placed into the uterus by your healthcare professional. Once Mirena is in place, it begins to slowly release small amounts of the hormone levonorgestrel into your uterus. It does not contain estrogen, so you can be free of estrogen-related side effects.
SIDE AFFECTS @ 3 MONTHS & 5 YEARS
Lower abdominal pain (cramping) 10.5% (3mo) 2.0%(5yrs)
Acne or other skin problems 3.5%(3mo) 1.8% (5yrs)
Back pain 3.1% 1.0%
Breast tenderness 3.1% 1.0%
Headache 2.8% 1.6%
Mood changes 2.5% Less than 1.0%
Anyway, condoms are not bad but I think that sex is a very personal thing. Condoms desensitize the penis a little, but if you and your husband are both comfortable then its not our call! GOOD LUCK
Try a “lamb skin condom” it doesnt protect against STD but it does against preganacy. it doesnt reduce the pleasure as a normal latex condom. feels natural. for both me and my partner are very satified. only thing is that they are very pricy. message me if you need help.
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My boyfriend and I have never used a condom together (dating 3 years, living together 8 months). I just went off birth control because I had lost all my sexual desire on it…
we just tried a condom and that was the most horrible experience. It’s not skin to skin contact so it hurt me, and he didn’t feel anything half the time.
Going to try the female condom now, but then I’m looking at other methods. Otherwise I’ll have to go back to bc because that was really bad…