Comments on: Birth Control- Is It Mainly The Woman’s Responsibility?

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 02:56:11 +0000

so…. why didn’t they just tie your tube when you were already cut open then?

By: originat

originat — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 20:56:36 +0000

It’s funny how women get offended when men tell them what to do with their bodies, but all of a sudden every woman is an expert when it comes to the male anatomy.
It is every person’s responsibility to take control of their reproductive options and every man’s right to not want to use birth control as it is a woman’s, but that doesn’t mean you have to sex with them. Unless rape occurred, women are just as implicit when having unprotected sex.

By: Peridot Green

Peridot Green — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 17:37:00 +0000

The male pill had many bad side effects. It is sort of the first domino in a line. If a man takes the male pill he will have to take testosterone, and anti-depressants to counter the side effects. It will be quite a money-maker for the drug companies, just like the female pill is. Just think. Not only did they sell you pills, but the same companies supplied the drugs needed when you had the surgery to remove your tumor.
Anyway the problem with most men is their ego. They are afraid that getting a vasectomy will make them feel less manly. They feel the same about condoms. I have no male ego, so I had no problem getting a vasectomy. I can now have all the sex I ever want, and them some. But most men don’t see it that way until they are about 40.
I think religion plays into it as well. Most churches play up men as the “leader” and the woman as the follower. So they appeal to his male ego and tell them not to get sterilizations. After all, the churches want all those future tithing paying children. It seems that only the churches can’t tell that the world is over-populated.

By: Aycora Bayduv

Aycora Bayduv — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 13:17:30 +0000

Not all men are like that. Many refuse to not wear a condom because they don’t trust that women are using birth control properly, and/or they feel it’s best to have 2 forms of birth control.
I’m sorry to hear about the complications you had while on the pill. Nothing is 100% foolproof. Though I think the pill is one of the most trusted (if not *the* most trusted) temporary, reversible birth control methods for women. It’s been around for many decades & people have had time to study how it works & what kind of complications it may cause. Other birth control methods are more recent & the current women using them are kind of like guinea pigs.
There isn’t a birth control pill for men yet, so they have to settle with either condoms or vasectomies. Many men, understandably, will not want a vasectomy, and condoms truthfully are not really that reliable as a method of birth control.
Birth control definitely does fall onto the woman’s lap, but I think if men could have more options they’d take them. Sometimes it doesn’t seem fair, but women do have an upper hand with this.
Also, any decent man would wear a condom. If he refuses to he’s immature and mentally unfit to deal with whatever may result from not wearing a condom.

By: Bored Now

Bored Now — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 08:49:41 +0000

It’s an equal responsibility for couples who can trust each other. I don’t think it’s selfish to not want to use condoms, which interfere with pleasure, or to not want to have surgery, which can have complications for either gender, or to not want to use a diaphragm because it takes some expertise, or to not want to use an IUD because of possible side effects, or to not want to take the pill due to the health risks. I’m sorry you suffer with them. In my youth, most women I was involved with avoided the pill for health concerns.
Personally, I’m a fan of the diaphragm. It’s minimally inconvenient, highly effective, perfectly safe, and doesn’t interfere with anyone’s pleasure. But there are no birth control methods that aren’t unpleasant or unhealthy in some way, and it seems self-evident to me that men and women share the responsibility of planning to have or not have children, and to choose a method that both are comfortable with.
I was sexually active for over a decade before I married and had (planned) children, and despite differences in what birth-control techniques different women preferred, we always came to a quick agreement and there were never any unwanted pregnancies or side effects. A woman can take responsibility along with her partner without taking potentially dangerous hormones.

By: Lost Soul

Lost Soul — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 05:45:37 +0000

Birth control is the responsibility of whoever in a relationship does not want to have a child in 9 months. When I was younger and more unsure of myself I made the mistake of trusting my ex-partner to take care of it, but when, at 17 I became pregnant guess who ended up taking care of the baby that resulted?
Don’t get me wrong , I don’t regret my daughter but I do wish she had come after I was through with school and established in my career. I still have the same goals but achieving them has become much harder.
Now I make certain it won’t happen again by taking responsibility for my own birth control and protection from STD’s. If you can’t take the pill there are other options, Depo shots, diaphram etc., and if my present man won’t use a condom he gets no sex. Period.

By: Erin

Erin — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 23:29:03 +0000

It is laziness on the part of the men who do not want to wear condoms. Condoms do not minimize men’s pleasure, particularly if the man has taken the time to sensualize condom use. The man who learns to put a drop or two of good quality lube in the tip of the condom and even masturbates with them will learn that you can have as much or more pleasure using condoms.
That being said, I personally take full responsiblity for birth control in my relationships. Let me explain. I have my own hormonal birth control that I prefer to use, not just for birth control, but also to level my hormone levels so I don’t feel like I’m about to pass out during my period. But I also know that hormonal birth control isn’t 100% effective, nor does it protect from STIs. So I also insist on condoms as well. I have supplied the condoms in relationship for years because I’ve found men to be unreliable when it comes to providing their own. I would rather supply my own condoms than to have to listen to a man beg and plead to have sex without. Providing my own completely removes that nuisance.

By: Professo

Professo — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 22:28:03 +0000

No it is not. It is anyone who has sex! Especially if you don’t know the party well!

By: Ready to Go Home!

Ready to Go Home! — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 21:04:23 +0000

No, both parties need to practice safe sex. It takes two to tango.

By: Laela (Layla)

Laela (Layla) — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 17:32:01 +0000

Tis better to be wise than to be stupid and lose. Put yourself first at all costs; no one else is going to.