My Life Is In Ruins?
I am sixteen, about to graduate high school, and have almost a full ride to college. That should be enough to keep my life on track, but over the last four years, my mental health has gone way down. I have no friends and am utterly alone. At first, this fact did not bother me. Finally, it began wearing on me, though. I’m a senior in high school but have no one to do any of the other activities that seniors typically do, like prom and class day. I feel like my life is hurtling toward an end, and no one understands. They think I am being dramatic, seeking attention. I don’t want attention; I just want my life to get back on track. I feel depressed all the time; I have contemplated suicide and I can’t even run anymore. I have no desire left. I was on Zoloft for a while, but that did not work. Please, what can I do? I don’t want to go crazy or be hospitalized. I just want to be a happy, sixteen-year-old girl.
You need counseling — and no, that doesn’t make you “crazy.” Depression is an illness, just like cancer or heart disease, and with the proper treatment, you can feel like yourself again. Perhaps Zoloft wasn’t right for you — there are lots of medications, and it usually takes a little experimenting to find the right one(s). Please, get help. Talk to your parents, or a teacher, or the folks at 1-800-SUICIDE.
please speak to a teacher or doctor or someone you can trust and find some help, like a councellor to talk to
Go back to the doctor and tell him what you are feeling, so the doctor can perscribe you the right medication, before you get to the point of suicide.
When you start to feel numb, it is time to talk to someone, you may need to go to a councelor for a short time.
I can understand why you’re depress, if you feel you are alone in life, that is not a good feeling. Stop talking to the people that don’t believe you, go to a concelor that is train to and paid to listen. If you don’t have any money, a mental health center, I believe they go by the income you make. Take yourself if you have a ride. this will be the first step in becoming an adult and mature, to know you have a problem.
My prayers go out to you….
You could have a chemical inbalance which you’ll need the right meds to get your life back on track..
Now, if you are the typical teenager that feels her life is going no where, because you are not like the other girl, I want to say, ëven the most popular girl has problems, some just show it better than others.
The best part of life starts after high school so hang in there and don’t give up on getting help, treat your depression seriously by seeing doctors and therapists regularly.
Contact me. I can talk to you and help you out. I’m 20, but have felt the same way you do in the past. You need a good set of ears to listen to you and help you out. I can be that person if you’d like.
Go to a doctor or parent and try and get some help right away, My bro killd himself when i was 16 and it really dosent make things better trust me.
Well, you just have to get over it. You have your whole life ahead of you and a whole new life when you start college. Like some people say, Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery. So let go of the past, be grateful for all the blessings you have and look forward with enthusiasm about your future. We all have problems and disappointments, but we can focus on those. We have to focus on the positive, not the negative. You could be prom queen, have a gazillion friends and then high school ends and you are out there looking for a job just to get by. You need to look at what you are eating or not eating. Cut out the fast and processed food. Eat 3 balanced meals a day and snack on carrots, apples, yogurt and drink a lot of water and take a multi-vitamin. Get out in the sunshine every day and do something to exercise, even if it is walking. Walking is good. Find something to do this summer where you give of yourself–volunteer at a nursing home or hospital. Good luck.
I didn’t have any friends too until I went to college.
I was bullied teased and insulted by both teachers and classmates.
However I decide to change (prayed a lot too) and I am glad to say that its all behind me now.
Great life for people come at diffrent times. Trust me, you life will start just as mine did.
16 and graduating? Did you put all your effort, time and energy into your academics? If so, of course, then that explains the no friends thing. But dont feel so isolated. Your academic effort paid off for what you did (as opposed to flunking out). So think of it that you exchanged academic excellence for time with people.
So now you can put time effort and energy into making friends. Its not as easy as a book, as people dont come with directions. So if there is at least one person your age, a cousin, the daughter or son of your parents friends, someone you can connect with, start there (even if the person doesnt seem interesting or likeable). Start there to build up on your social skills, go places or at least talk to them. Find an adult you trust to talk to.
As to not being able to run-are you eating and sleeping right? Depression will definitely zap the body of energy. If the Zoloft didnt work dont stop trying to find something that will work. Go back to the doctor and tell him/her it isnt helping (provided you’ve waited 3-6 weeks for it to start helping)
Talk to someone at a suicide hotline. In my area there is a “9-line” in the US 1-800-999-9999 for suicide prevention.
When you feel suicidal you have to pull yourself out of those thoughts.
You want to be a happy 16 year old girl, but you have to not give in to the unhappiness. Its called stinking thinking.
Actively thinking, you can change how you think about something, and changing how you think will change how you feel, since our feelings follow our thoughts. It takes energy to hold in negative thoughts and when we’re depleted of energy thats when we’re in a depression.
You did a good job so far! Give yourself credit. If you look around, someone feels as isolated as you. Look around for a person who looks like they might feel alone, and strike up a conversation. You’ll find that people think more of you than you know. And family and friends love you, so, give them a break, for not understanding. My prayers are with you.
just be yourself and dont be scared to make new and good friends…. you have your life ahead of you!
I’m reading your question right now and I wish that I could just reach right through the computer screen and give you a hug. I’m sorry your in this kind of pain. My advise to to you would be to let someone you really trust know what you’re going through. Even though the Zoloft didn’t work for you there are other treatments you can try. You are overwhelmed right now which may have led to your depression. Life is worth living. You are here for a reason. People do care. Please talk to someone in the next day or two. And post again so we know how your doing. o.k.
your ouestion grabed my heart. all normal feeling it shows that you are a smart girl . please ive been theretoo.you and i right now are hurting . me a divorce. you the at least reach out . thats good you helped me tonite . stay strong you will preval . god blessyou .
Given your age, I don’t know about other medications. I know that with adults, if Zoloft didn’t work, another antidepressant would be tried. Only your doctor can make that decision. Also, cognitive-behavioral therapy would help.
Please know that you are not utterly alone. You just feel utterly alone. The feeling isn’t reality. You are an important piece of the puzzle. Senior year can be stressful and I know that not having someone to go to prom with and things like that can be a downer since I didn’t go to prom myself. There are plenty of people who didn’t have someone to go to prom with.
You aren’t being dramatic or attention seeking. You have a real problem that makes you feel bad. But it will be okay. Please consider calling a licensed therapist who can help you separate your depressive thoughts and feelings from the real you and recommend a psychiatrist for medication if they think it best.
Best wishes and again, it will be alright. You aren’t crazy and nothing you have written makes me think you would be hospitalized, not that hospitilization is an awful thing. For those who go, it is the best way for them to get to feeling better.
It sounds as though you are having anxiety problems because of all that lies ahead of you. It happens to most people more than you realize..And drugs are not always the cure for problems that we have growing up…It also sounds as though since you’re graduating at age 16 that you have achieved alot in your lifetime….so try to think positively and remember you will survive and things will get better…try to do things that are fun and be around positive people…do not dwell on problems…take care…
I understand you might be looked different in high school, but college will definitely be different as long as you don’t blurt out your age…and there are plenty of social groups that are clean as in they won’t ask you to drink or make you feel pressured to drink or drug it up. College is many times what you make it as…and plus you’re never stuck with the same people in a class for long. I’ve met so many more people in college than in high school. Be approachable and don’t be shy!
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Start going into activities, even if you are alone. I used to go to the courts alone and then got sick of it, so I ended up asking people to play with me and it became a way for me to make new friends and partners in the game
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