How Do I Stop Feeling Emotionally Distant To Some People After Cancer?
Alot of our friends and family bailed on us after my husband had cancer. You would think they would rally by our side, but instead, still avoid us like the plague.I read alot of other peoples answers on here saying it happened to them as well. The thing is , Im bumping into these people here and there, and I really don’t know how to react. I want to feel happy to talk to them, and see them, but I do feel so emotionally distant and a bit angry now.
What should I do?
Be cheerful around them?
I think when you go through any type of tragedy you really find out who your true friends are. Those that stuck by me in my difficult times were true friends. Those that bailed were good time friends. Speak to them the same you would speak to any acquaintance. No need to be hateful. Be pleasant and wish them well. But move on. You should concentrate your energies on those that stood by you and your husband and stop worrying about those that bailed. Even though you may want to feel happy to see them the fact is that they turned out to be not as good a friend as you thought. So feeling angry and distant now is normal. Also because you have been through something that really makes you reevaluate what is important in life it makes you see the world differently than you did before. Some of the things you had in common with these people may not be true for you anymore. So basically just be cordial and be yourself. At this point you don’t owe them anything.